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-- Programs and Services -- Contact Information Respite for the caregiver should top the "to do" list
By Bea Cowlin, LSW
Many caregivers ask, “What is respite?” Webster’s New World Dictionary says, “temporary relief, as from pain, work, etc; rest.” I define respite as the most important item on a caregiver’s to do list. When you are a caregiver, it can become an all consuming role, day in and day out, coping with little sleep, too much to do, and not enough time. Respite is a time to step back from caregiving responsibilities, to rest and renew so that you can return to your caregiving role with more patience, compassion, and strength.
There are a number of options for respite, and many caregivers have learned to be creative so they can have time for themselves without too much imposition on their loved one. In some families, there may be one primary caregiver, with other family members sharing other responsibilities. One family member might stay with the person receiving care for a number of days, giving the primary caregiver a “vacation.” In other families, the person receiving care moves from one family member’s home to another for a period of time. This works where there is cooperation of all members involved and the elder is willing and able to make these changes. When there are no other family members to assist, a caregiver might have their loved one stay in an assisted living or nursing facility for a short period of time, especially if the caregiver has to address their own health problems.
Other options for respite include hiring a companion from a certified agency to spend time with your loved one on a regular basis, so the caregiver can take a walk, read, or simply rest. There are day programs available throughout Berkshire County. Adult Day Health Programs exist in North Adams, Pittsfield, and Great Barrington. Social Day Programs are available in Pittsfield and Adams.
Individuals who meet financial and clinical criteria may be eligible for home care, available through Elder Services. The Home Care program may help pay for some of these respite services. In addition, the loved one you are caring for may be eligible for such services
as Meals on Wheels, personal care, or a personal emergency response system. All of these services can help the caregiver take care of their loved one, and in turn, these services can decrease some of the responsibilities of the caregiver, giving more time for the caregiver
to take care of him/herself. If at some point the caregiver feels he or she cannot continue caring for their loved one at home, alternative housing programs may be available to alleviate the stress in some situations. Information on all of these programs and on the services mentioned is available through Elder Services’ Information and Referral Department.
Many caregivers find it difficult to ask for help. They don’t want to impose on others, or it’s hard for them to admit that they cannot handle everything. It might be helpful for caregivers to make a list of simple tasks that would help balance all of the responsibilities. If someone offers to help, refer to the list to see what they might be willing to do. It is most important for caregivers to understand the need for regular rest and relaxation. Give yourself permission to say, “I need some time away from the situation, and return with a refreshed and positive attitude. For further information on caregiving, contact Bea Cowlin at Elder Services, 499-0524 or 800-544-5242.