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By Bea Cowlin, Elder Services Caregiver Liaison
Many caregivers face an enormous job of caring for their loved one whether by weekly visiting or providing care 24 hours a day, seven days a week. In addition, many of these caregivers work full or part time, and have their own family responsibilities to deal with.
There are many ways to cope with being a caregiver including joining a support or sharing group. A support group can offer a forum to discuss or vent feelings of frustration or anger in a confidential environment. Oftentimes people share stories, both good and bad, and many find comfort in knowing that someone else is experiencing the same feelings.
At a recent group, two women shared similar stories about caring for their mothers. One was able to offer the other specific ideas on how to cope, including taking time for herself and her husband, since the caregiver’s elderly mother was often demanding. Another caregiver shared how she handled that situation by being very honest with her mother and explaining that although she loved her very much, she still had to find time for herself to be with her own family. It was also suggested that she ask other family members and neighbors to be with her mother. Another caregiver was able to help them both recognize how they get into struggles with the person they care for, and described for them how she had made a conscious decision not to pursue that struggle. It was noted that sometimes you have to “pick your battles” and just let others go.
In addition to sharing difficult times, often humorous stories are shared. Time is spent laughing, sometimes crying, but always caring. Relationships are developed and sometimes lasting friendships are formed.
A support group can also be a source of information and resources. If a caregiver does not have an answer, the facilitator may be able to make suggestions or may be willing to research a particular request and provide the information by the next meeting or by phone if necessary.
There are support/sharing groups throughout Berkshire County. At Elder Services, daytime and evening programs are available. The daytime group meets the second and fourth Tuesdays of the month from 10 to 11:30 a.m. The evening group meets the second Wednesday of the month from 6:30 to 8 p.m.
For information on other support groups throughout Berkshire County, call Bea Cowlin, Caregiver Liaison, at 499-0524 or 800-544-5242, ext. 113.